Esther, I have experienced the same situation and I know how much it hurts. It’s hard not to be defensive, too, if you feel they may have blown an early incident out of proportion, or picked at a “scab” until it began to fester and bleed, as resentment does. It takes restraint, and great love, to just listen, and then to own our failings, so we can get to a better place in our relationships. I’m m glad you two are in a better place.